Lessons in Call Me by Your Name --M23 Elio Oliver
Recently having received four nominations in the 90th Academy Award (the Oscars), including the Best Picture, the Best Actor, the Best Writing (Adapted Screenplay) and the Best Music (Original Song), and awarded the Movie of the Year in American Film Institute Awards this year, the highly-rated movie ‘Call Me by Your Name’ has tempted every single moviegoer to explore its wonder first-handed. However, it was a slight disappointment to me. Not that it is bad, since it is definitely a great, inspiring movie, but just a bit overrated. However, me and my friends (and I believe most people who watched it) were moved by the dialogue of the protagonist’s father, which clearly highlights the conclusion for the movie and have brought out the underlying message. ‘On your least expected, nature has cunning ways of finding our weakest spot.’ Just like affection, nature approaches us unexpectedly. We can’t and definitely shouldn’t try to pursue it as it’s something that can never be predicted. It often lands on our weakest points, the moments when we are lost, when our hearts ache and break. It grows and spreads little by little, and when we finally realise its existence, that’ll be the time when we have truly, madly, deeply fallen in love. ‘Right now, you may not want to feel anything, maybe you never want to feel anything… but feel something that you obviously did… We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster, then we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to make yourself feel nothing so as not to feel anything, what a waste?’ There are times when we are in love, and there are also times when we are no longer in it. It hurts, like a lot. It is so painful that we may try to numb ourselves from everything, staying nonchalant to people around us, even to those who care. True, we will never be hurt again by ripping out all of our sensations, but at the same time, we also lose our ability to love. Dare to love and dare to risk. Never forget the fact that all pain comes from the joy we have felt. Is it really a wise choice to avoid pain by sacrificing joy as well? ‘How you live your life is your business. Just remember our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it. Right now, there’s sorrow, pain. Don’t kill it, and with it the joy you’ve felt.’ Our youth wears away too quickly that we don’t even have time to think carefully, make up our minds and cherish it. The passage of time is irreversible, so are the choices we made. There are no second chances, and that’s what gives most people regret. We suffer the biggest loss when we stand idle. Why are we holding back, terrified of losing something by giving away all of ourselves? Every time when you are in agony, see through it and you’ll find joy. Adding up of all these emotions is what makes us human. http://oscar.go.com/nominees

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